All too often, we focus on the deficits that we see in our children. We do it as parents. We do it at school. We do it on the playing field. Some ABA programs do this, too. A LOT! We often think “what can we do to help this child overcome his deficits?” In doing this, we forget that focusing on, and developing, strengths is a far better way. By focusing on a child’s strengths, he can be rooted in self-esteem and pride. Of course we want to help children overcome their deficits. We just cannot forget to recognize and develop their strengths. We cannot forget to offer avenues for praise. That is exactly the philosophy we hold at Alternatives ABA. We offer far more avenues for success to enable the child to feel proud of what he CAN do well. That strong foundation of self-esteem helps the child avoid feeling like a failure because he isn’t overcoming deficits fast enough. Working towards overcoming deficits is far more fun when we can also show off what we are great at! A wise mentor once said: “There should be five opportunities for praise and success for every one expectation of failure.” What that means is that we should be giving our kids five high fives for every one “let’s try that one again.” A good ABA program does just that.
Love them. High five them. Tell them why they are amazing. They have probably already been told why they are not.